If it’s not Broken….

That’s right you just heard the dreaded words I think I need some space or it’s not you it’s me. So heart was broken an the only way to fix it is to head out into the wonderful world of dating.

WAIT we all agree that the dating world is broken, ruthless, an overall terrifying. It’s loaded with players, bitches an wolves in sheep clothing. Yet no one has stepped forward to change it. I occasionally come across the empowered female who hunts me down like a lioness on the savanna. However this don’t happen often, it’s mostly me giving the eyes to a woman or vice versa or eyeing her profile online an sending a well thought out letter. We don’t trust each other, we all hate the game but few are courageous enough to try an change it.

The dating world is hostile an dangerous.  We have to change this somehow. Someone has to be that change. Whether its not being shallow or giving that guy or girl you wouldn’t a chance. Stop grouping all men or women in stereotypes and you will find a lot more opportunities.  Don’t shoot down compliments an stop stalking an hating on each other. Together we can change the dating world.

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Killing them Slowly

Gore gore gore…. A quick summary guy robs guy people kill guy an obama talking in the background.

The Bad

I thought this movie was painfully slow an predictable. There was a lot of talking LOTS of it that I felt they could have cut out for more action. What I gathered from the trailer it was going to be a extremely violent action packed hitman adventure. It didn’t even come close to that. I patiently waited through the frist part of the movie listening to all the chit chat thinking I would need to retain the information but found it mostly useless. There was a lot of cheesy effects that tried to entertain but they all fell short except one. If you see the movie you will know exactly what I’m talking about

The Good

Brad Pitt!! His acting was once again pretty much on point an I felt he really filled an brought life to his role. The acting in general was really good the characters were very believable. The acting alone kept me from leaving because I already knew how the movie would end. The one slow motion killing scene was amazing an the shot compostions was also on point. The movie did a great job of not using music to create tension instead at times they used the shot composition to set up the feel. An what was with the old cars? The mood was so retro yet it was set in the Obama era, I didn’t quite understand why.

The Ugly

The story was dry in itself weak twists an in my opinion one useless plot line that should have been scrapped an that effort put into a stronger plot twist. Obama an Bush in the background, why? Why are they there, what is the purpose if only to be used as a dialogue device at the end of the game. In all random!

The Fix

More action and a stronger story, less special effects an better plot twists. Get rid of the useless sex story line an maybe a little better pacing.. LESS talking an a reason to care, I couldn’t quite find anyone to rout for in the movie which made it flat to me.

Join me next time when I take on Lincoln I am dying to see it!

 

Online Dating help

Okay so I have tried online dating for a few years with no success. I have only had one date which came from match.com an the rest nothing. I have paid for eharmony, match, OkCupid, POF an a bunch more little known sites. Still no dice, my profile was honest an written by myself completely filled out. I’ve done the tests an piled pictures on my profiles. I took my time to read the profiles an sent genuine answers to them an received no replies. So what am I doing wrong?  I often say if they would just give me a chance, but it seems that I can’t seem to get that. So one day I happened across a site that gave me a guaranteed line to get responses. So I typed it in an sure enough! every woman I sent it to responded! I was baffled that a line that made absolutely no sense an applied to nothing on the profile could be successful. I tried this line on even the hottest ones that never reply an it also worked on them. SO are online dating women really that naive? That I can send a one liner to 100 women an get a reply without even looking at the profile? If I read an take the time to write a good well thought out letter I strike out? This is why I stopped online dating. It proved to me that it wasn’t me it’s the women out there. So tell me if this isn’t true then what catches your attention? What do you like to read or see on a profile? What gets you to respond to a note?

Online Dating Advice

Answer you notes, messages an winks! There is nothing worst than someone having a full mailbox after you took the time to write out a long thoughtful note.

The Experiment Ended

I want to be honest with you, I am kind of seeing someone right now.

4 days before…..

I’m not really looking for anything serious..

This is the end game of the experiment. A two months ago I set out to prove a theory that I had, that all women are programed to lie. The experiment ended on the first sentence. I chose 3 diverse women to test my theory, I will break down my interaction an how I came to my conclusion. I decided to do this because women like to tell me I am trying the wrong women. I went over an beyond my normal standards for this one.

Woman 1.

Type: Wild child, party animal, Artist

Perks: Lots of sex, funny, fun,

Flaws: Needy, Can’t handle drinking, Clingy,

This woman was by farrr the most honest of the one I’d met, until that is I realized she was using me as a sex toy. I was okay with this until she started comparing me to her EX. She was reluctant to acknowledge this but it came out in time. Could I ever do more than have sex with her? No, she is wayyy to wild an messed up to settle with. I did find her to be a sweet relief from the mind games the others play.

Woman 2

Type: Middle of the road, vegan, English major

Perks: Smart! cute! Morals! Mature!

Cons: Tom boy complex

I thought she would be the one to disprove my theory, but when asked out she agreed but blew me off. Not once but 3 times! I found this funny because she constantly told me she liked me. What secret is she hiding, I don’t know.  I do know that blowing me off after agreeing is never a good thing. If she had atleast gave me some reason that I could use to justify her actions then this mission would have been a failure. Sadly that was not so.

Woman 3

Type: Good Girl, Quiet, Nurse

Pros: Smart,cute, good wife material

Cons: Stubborn, cocky

This was the one I bet the most on, but behind ever pretty smile is a dark secret. The opening statement to this post are her exact words to me.  She was indeed a hard nut to crack, after blowing me off once for a date I almost gave up. I had to find out why she was lying to me an I did. She was scared to reject me by just saying no, so she went to the age old book of lies. Maybe it could have worked, but a lie is a lie an that my friends is a deal breaker.

So in conclusion no matter the type, it’s the same games… So what must I do play along stay tuned as I chapter out my adventures in using the game to increase my dating chances!

Open to Comments!

You open your heart to the world, you pour out your soul in your blog. You hope someone sees it an perhaps has the answer, maybe a bit of reassurance. Hours go by an not one comment! Maybe a like an only 11 views. You know people are reading but what can you do to get them to comment? You try an encourage them by asking a question at the end. You state an opinion an request feed back, but still no dice. I have found that the best way to get comments is to say something outrageous, something unbelievable. Something that makes readers look back and an say what in the hell? You must say something that bothers people convictions an calls their morals into question. While sure this maybe hard to do, but if you writing is direct or offensive someone will comment. Some soul will make their opinion known. So I say this go out there! Write about how you love abortion, write about how all men are dogs an people will respond. Likes are over rated, comments is where the fun interaction is!

Jaded Much?

What are our opinions derived from? I always said if you bring emotions to a debate you have already lost. We must strive to see both sides of a situation to better our argument. After doing some blog reading I kept coming across some opinions on things that were extremely jaded. Some made no sense at all. I was this person, ranting away about the things that happen or make no sense. I realized that the more I ranted I seemed to come full circle an realize that the problem was within me. That my communication was bad, or it didn’t work because I didn’t read the signs. The more I blogged the more my attitude changed. When I thought out my rants they turned from mindless rants to a quest for knowledge. I slowly became aware of the other side of my problem. I began reading female blogs an this also began to open my eyes, an I strove to present to them a mans view of the situation.  I can now see the pain an devastation we, both sexes are bringing down on each others heads. So when you rant think an ask the questions that you have an see them from both sides. I assure you, acting off what is in your head is almost never sound judgement.

Familar Signs

The smile that makes my heart jump, the eyes that read my soul. The thoughts that invades my dreams an mind on a daily basis. She says I crack her up, she says she enjoys messing with me. She can call my bluffs with just a slight glance. Shes fun, playful, intelligent, mysterious, an single. While all signs point to me being into her. I woke up this morning an I suddenly realize this all seems so familiar! It’s like a replay, the girl that I couldn’t best when joking around. Her ability to get under my skin, an read my face with a mere glance. I also thought about her everyday, she also made her way into my dreams frequently. So what happened, is this a bad sign or good sign? Well I also asked that young lady out in which she agreed but then blew me off. She also used me when she could, disarming my attempts to resist easily. Turns out I later found out she had a boyfriend, but she had gotten the A for the class she needed from me. I didn’t blame her, I blamed myself. I have no idea where this new one is headed. Am I just fun for her? Someone to toy with to make her day go by faster. I don’t know, I do care however, wasting energy on someone who will not return it to me is a waste. I will see, I will know there will be no friend zone for this guy.

Game Changer

Five days after my fail attempt to ask her out, I decided not to worry anymore. I walked up to her an asked her if she wanted my information IE phone number an stuff and she said sure. She gave me a piece of paper an I wrote it all down and walked away. I was sick an tired of wondering if I have a shot, if she was into me. SO I put the ball firmly in her court, if she decides to woman up an call me then fine, if she doesn’t that is also fine. No more worrying an trying to read the signs for me. Casting my fishing line into deeper waters while I wait for a bite from her.

Online Crash & Burn

Hmm to cute to be real, hmm she looks normal maybe there’s a chance. This was my thought when I was into online dating. I patiently read through all the profiles that interested me an sent intelligent interesting messages to each one. Then waited patiently for a reply, few days go by an nothing so I figure maybe they haven’t been online. I take the time to upgrade my account to see if the person has read my message. Yep they read it I guess they wasn’t interested in me, so I moved on to check out more profiles. Oh this one looks good “Ready to try something new” is how the profile read. This one will surely be willing to at least reply, once again I was wrong. So I tried the match system, hmm wow we are a perfect match! Wait, she don’t date black guys, how is that not a deal breaker? I guess I should upload more pictures an pay to get a writer to fix my profile better. I tried this still nothing worked for me. I soon realized that this was going to be tough. I spent all night churning out letters to women, rating their profiles an answering dating questions on the site. Nothing happened, so after a few weeks I begin to question whether I was good looking enough, maybe this was the source of my problem. Every non reply was a small rejection in which I had no idea why. So there I sat in front of my computer discouraged at what had transpired of the last 6months of no replies. I decided to step away from online dating but I would leave up my profile for a year hoping that some one would like what they see an message me. This never happened once.

After a year I decided to try the new free online sites I had heard about, but had the same results. Being the geek that I am I turned to google. I googled to find how to be more successful in online dating and found a one liner guaranteed to get women to respond. I went online and tried the line copy pasted to as many profiles as I could. Within minutes I was getting replies more replies than I could respond too, so I tried to keep up. Then I realized that women were responding to something completely fake. This baffled me an I decided to just leave it alone an quit online dating all together.