“We have restricted credit, we have restricted opportunity, we have controlled development, and we have come to be one of the worst ruled, one of the most completely controlled and dominated, governments in the civilized world–no longer a government by free opinion, no longer a government by conviction and the vote of the majority, but a government by the opinion and the duress of small groups of dominant men.”
Okay so I have tried online dating for a few years with no success. I have only had one date which came from match.com an the rest nothing. I have paid for eharmony, match, OkCupid, POF an a bunch more little known sites. Still no dice, my profile was honest an written by myself completely filled out. I’ve done the tests an piled pictures on my profiles. I took my time to read the profiles an sent genuine answers to them an received no replies. So what am I doing wrong? I often say if they would just give me a chance, but it seems that I can’t seem to get that. So one day I happened across a site that gave me a guaranteed line to get responses. So I typed it in an sure enough! every woman I sent it to responded! I was baffled that a line that made absolutely no sense an applied to nothing on the profile could be successful. I tried this line on even the hottest ones that never reply an it also worked on them. SO are online dating women really that naive? That I can send a one liner to 100 women an get a reply without even looking at the profile? If I read an take the time to write a good well thought out letter I strike out? This is why I stopped online dating. It proved to me that it wasn’t me it’s the women out there. So tell me if this isn’t true then what catches your attention? What do you like to read or see on a profile? What gets you to respond to a note?
You open your heart to the world, you pour out your soul in your blog. You hope someone sees it an perhaps has the answer, maybe a bit of reassurance. Hours go by an not one comment! Maybe a like an only 11 views. You know people are reading but what can you do to get them to comment? You try an encourage them by asking a question at the end. You state an opinion an request feed back, but still no dice. I have found that the best way to get comments is to say something outrageous, something unbelievable. Something that makes readers look back and an say what in the hell? You must say something that bothers people convictions an calls their morals into question. While sure this maybe hard to do, but if you writing is direct or offensive someone will comment. Some soul will make their opinion known. So I say this go out there! Write about how you love abortion, write about how all men are dogs an people will respond. Likes are over rated, comments is where the fun interaction is!
Dear Mr. Bill I don’t care what you think of my film, I don’t care that you took screen writing 4 times. I do however care that your in my class. Why do I care you ask? First off I spent about 6 grand to be able to take this class an you: well you got in free. I care because I had to drag my butt all the way to middle east to fight a war on terror, to get benefits in order to take this class. You got in free, hell you took screen writing four, 4 times for free! I had to go hungry for a few days to produce my film an make due with a bare minimal crew. You got a crew full of professionals an even our teacher showed up to work on your shoot. I spent hours at night editing my piece, while you just passed yours on to someone else to do. Am I jealous of your money or influence? No, not really am I angry that you are getting a free ride because you married the dean of my school? YES! very angry, I am aware that world is not fair, an you have to struggle to make it if your not so lucky. I will however take the time to vent on my blog about this foolishness. Now I will head off to my minimal wage job to try an make ends met. While you browse over next years classes an decide on which one you will take for free. God Bless The Rich oops I mean America…
What are our opinions derived from? I always said if you bring emotions to a debate you have already lost. We must strive to see both sides of a situation to better our argument. After doing some blog reading I kept coming across some opinions on things that were extremely jaded. Some made no sense at all. I was this person, ranting away about the things that happen or make no sense. I realized that the more I ranted I seemed to come full circle an realize that the problem was within me. That my communication was bad, or it didn’t work because I didn’t read the signs. The more I blogged the more my attitude changed. When I thought out my rants they turned from mindless rants to a quest for knowledge. I slowly became aware of the other side of my problem. I began reading female blogs an this also began to open my eyes, an I strove to present to them a mans view of the situation. I can now see the pain an devastation we, both sexes are bringing down on each others heads. So when you rant think an ask the questions that you have an see them from both sides. I assure you, acting off what is in your head is almost never sound judgement.
“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.”
It won’t hurt me, it’s not my problem. These are the things we often tell ourselves when making decisions. We justify our decisions by selfish means with very limited thought on the overall outcome. How do we fix this you may ask. Communication, and respect for our other people. Why need to communicate why we are making a decision. We both men and women come in contact with each other an at time treat each other badly. Women lie or speak “womanese” about their intentions or desires. Men try to evolve to have a fighting chance at getting women. With each interaction we take what happens with us an past that on to the next person we encounter. These interactions make the eternal waves start to flow. When we have bad break ups, cheat on our husband or wives or just plain treat people poorly we affect them an the in-turn affect everyone else.
I said all that to say this, just like a smile is infectious and spreads to people around you, so are your actions. Please beware of the people you hurt because they will only go off to hurt others keeping the eternal waves moving, shaping the shores of our life an those of complete strangers. Don’t let selfishness be the shores our children land on in our future. Spread the love people not hate. Treat people how you want to be treated now an in the future.
Can I have your number? The bread an butter of a mans life or love life that is. It’s the one crucial thing that a man must learn to survive. It is a mans sole responsibility to ask this, these words launch a man into limbo an he falls into firmly into the open palm of the woman he asks. Will she clinch her fist an crush his hopes and dreams, or will she open his his world to thousands of possibilities.
As awkward as it is for a woman to be asked out, it’s much worst for the man who had to build up the courage to ask you out. So is it fair for a man to have to work up all that courage to ask you out an get shot down? Is it fair that a man is the expected to be the one to act first? What does it say about the man whom this comes naturally an isn’t phased by the rejection? Well the dating game is not fair, its leveled in the favor of women. Since they only need to sit back an accept or reject advances, like saying yes or no to a free meal. They don’t have to be out going an if they really want a certain man they can step up an ask the man out. Why do we as a society empower one gender over another? A mans drive to reproduce keeps the power in a woman’s hands. How do we fix this, well we can’t we as men can only evolve to be more cunning an courageous at asking women out.
One thing I have observed while reading blogs is that women always tend to have problems finding the right man, while going on multiple dates an even have up to two or three men in the Que at one time. While most men who blog are having problems getting one date, or has found themselves in the friend zone. The man is making a cry for help, while the woman is asking for help in choosing. Choosing is a luxury that most women have an that no man has. I read about how a women dating one man suddenly decides to choose another over the one she is dating. It’s a cut throat world in dating an its not for the faint of heart. How many men have you approached? How many messages on online dating have you sent? Because of the uncertainty of the situation dating has become a numbers game for men. Ask as many women as you can an maybe you will get lucky. The less you ask the less likely you will find one, so it becomes a move of desperation. Problem is women can sense it an will reject you based on that reading.
So what do we do as men? Nothing really, just keep putting yourself under the choppers block. At least that what my women friends used to tell me. I don’t think it will get easier an rejection is a way of life. We find ourselves driven by nature to hunt or starve. Happy hunting brothers!
You know we can always be good friends an I don’t want that to change. The most dreaded line a man has to hear in his lifetime, besides No I won’t marry you. If you haven’t guessed I’m talking about the friend zone. The zone of dreams of false hope, the zone of no return. The friend zone is the equivalent of a woman getting her cake an eating it too. My experience with the friend zone is extensive. I once believed that if I show her how good of a friend I was then she would soon fall for me an want more. I was wrong, instead I was a tissue an shoulder to cry on. I was a clown when she needed to be cheered up, an also the study buddy at 3am in the morning. Do I regret all that I did in the friend zone in false hope of becoming more than friends? YES, every second was wasted time an energy. It was time I could have been spending finding some one who actually wanted more than just a lackey from me.
What surprises me the most is that women are oblivious to the friend zone. They seem to think that its okay to use someone to that capacity, even though they know they man has feeling for them. How do they justify this behavior? Well it’s such a good thing why pass on the chance to have your own personal slave. Personally I think it’s evil an selfish, but that is a humans nature. Take what you can an give nothing back if you can avoid it.
My conclusion is this, a plea to my fellow men. Get out of the friend zone and live your life. Help your friends to see the truth of their plight an move on. I will say this to women if you think you are in a mans friend zone you too should either tell him how you feel an if he don’t feel the same way then move on. We should all stop being selfish and wasting time, an move on to someone better!
What do u see when u look into my eyes? When u watch me smile? What does my laugh tell you? Do you see joy or the hidden pain? The unforgivably of myself for all my faults? Can u read my guilt? Can you see the beast lurking within? If you can’t then how are you my friend? Why do I talk to you? What did you offer me to make this exception to the rule? Why am I so full of hate? Why does the one thing that can soothe it elude me? Where do I aim this passion, release this rage channel this hate? when can I rest forever lay down and rest? that’s all I want is to rest no thoughts or feelings. Peaceful, painless release. Just the thought brings me peace. I want to see clearly again. It hurts for a second but the result, the result is worth it.