Online Dating help

Okay so I have tried online dating for a few years with no success. I have only had one date which came from match.com an the rest nothing. I have paid for eharmony, match, OkCupid, POF an a bunch more little known sites. Still no dice, my profile was honest an written by myself completely filled out. I’ve done the tests an piled pictures on my profiles. I took my time to read the profiles an sent genuine answers to them an received no replies. So what am I doing wrong?  I often say if they would just give me a chance, but it seems that I can’t seem to get that. So one day I happened across a site that gave me a guaranteed line to get responses. So I typed it in an sure enough! every woman I sent it to responded! I was baffled that a line that made absolutely no sense an applied to nothing on the profile could be successful. I tried this line on even the hottest ones that never reply an it also worked on them. SO are online dating women really that naive? That I can send a one liner to 100 women an get a reply without even looking at the profile? If I read an take the time to write a good well thought out letter I strike out? This is why I stopped online dating. It proved to me that it wasn’t me it’s the women out there. So tell me if this isn’t true then what catches your attention? What do you like to read or see on a profile? What gets you to respond to a note?

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Online Dating Advice

Answer you notes, messages an winks! There is nothing worst than someone having a full mailbox after you took the time to write out a long thoughtful note.

Denial ends now

Lets get this straight….

You fell in love with someone who didn’t love you back. How did you expect that to end?

You chased the man or woman who wasn’t interested in you, now you you wonder why they left you. How do people expect these plotlines to end? Maybe they will see you for who you are an fall for you. Maybe they will be so taken with you persistance that they will confess their undying love for you. Maybe they will see you as you really are.. A human following human nature to get what looks impossible to get.

You see them as a prize, they see you as a predator.. scary huh? Yep that what it looks like a lion chasing a meer cat down an ripping it into shreds. We tend to be blind to reality, but maybe we are looking to defy it. Maybe we think that we will be the exception that movies are written about. The supervillan that somehow survives the onslaught.

True when you go for the impossible it almost seems worth it. Without great risk comes no reward right? Does that count when you dealing with courting? Maybe there should be a disclaimer on some of the quotes out there.

If at first you don’t succeed try try again.. that’s called stalking

Don’t stop pushing till you get what you want.. that’s called rape

Let’s just take a look at how life an dating are different. In a world where not trying is the same as failing an trying to hard lands you in jail. Maybe we should take it slow.. Just saying

The Flag

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The Flag

If this man should fall, who will lift the flag and carry on?

In the older wars we carried the flag into every battle, there was a designated flag bearer an if he was killed another took his place ensuring that it flew at all times to inspire an direct the men.
Today we carry that flag in our hearts an those who fell carrying it are honored by those who picked up where they left off. I am proud an humble to say that I picked up the fallen flag an will carry it into battle until my dying breath.

Only the dead have seen the end of war…

Scripts Incoming

I will be working on a few movie script ideas in the coming weeks.

Wrong side of the bed…

A black widow type woman preys on unsuspecting men from local bars. One night she finds John a newly single young man, she try hard an fail to get him to her into her lair. Then after several attempts an a few days later she gets him to agree. He is wearing all white when he shows u at her door an is wearing all red when he leaves!

Friend Zoned

A young man falls in love with a smart young lady named Lilly. After spending a lot of time with her he realizes that she isn’t into him. She has taken to another young man that he knows. In a last ditched effort to show her his worth an free himself from the friend zone. He happens upon another young lady an together they hatch a plan to show Lilly what he is really made of.

I will soon be starting a new page of all my literary works so stay tuned!

The Experiment Ended

I want to be honest with you, I am kind of seeing someone right now.

4 days before…..

I’m not really looking for anything serious..

This is the end game of the experiment. A two months ago I set out to prove a theory that I had, that all women are programed to lie. The experiment ended on the first sentence. I chose 3 diverse women to test my theory, I will break down my interaction an how I came to my conclusion. I decided to do this because women like to tell me I am trying the wrong women. I went over an beyond my normal standards for this one.

Woman 1.

Type: Wild child, party animal, Artist

Perks: Lots of sex, funny, fun,

Flaws: Needy, Can’t handle drinking, Clingy,

This woman was by farrr the most honest of the one I’d met, until that is I realized she was using me as a sex toy. I was okay with this until she started comparing me to her EX. She was reluctant to acknowledge this but it came out in time. Could I ever do more than have sex with her? No, she is wayyy to wild an messed up to settle with. I did find her to be a sweet relief from the mind games the others play.

Woman 2

Type: Middle of the road, vegan, English major

Perks: Smart! cute! Morals! Mature!

Cons: Tom boy complex

I thought she would be the one to disprove my theory, but when asked out she agreed but blew me off. Not once but 3 times! I found this funny because she constantly told me she liked me. What secret is she hiding, I don’t know.  I do know that blowing me off after agreeing is never a good thing. If she had atleast gave me some reason that I could use to justify her actions then this mission would have been a failure. Sadly that was not so.

Woman 3

Type: Good Girl, Quiet, Nurse

Pros: Smart,cute, good wife material

Cons: Stubborn, cocky

This was the one I bet the most on, but behind ever pretty smile is a dark secret. The opening statement to this post are her exact words to me.  She was indeed a hard nut to crack, after blowing me off once for a date I almost gave up. I had to find out why she was lying to me an I did. She was scared to reject me by just saying no, so she went to the age old book of lies. Maybe it could have worked, but a lie is a lie an that my friends is a deal breaker.

So in conclusion no matter the type, it’s the same games… So what must I do play along stay tuned as I chapter out my adventures in using the game to increase my dating chances!

Open to Comments!

You open your heart to the world, you pour out your soul in your blog. You hope someone sees it an perhaps has the answer, maybe a bit of reassurance. Hours go by an not one comment! Maybe a like an only 11 views. You know people are reading but what can you do to get them to comment? You try an encourage them by asking a question at the end. You state an opinion an request feed back, but still no dice. I have found that the best way to get comments is to say something outrageous, something unbelievable. Something that makes readers look back and an say what in the hell? You must say something that bothers people convictions an calls their morals into question. While sure this maybe hard to do, but if you writing is direct or offensive someone will comment. Some soul will make their opinion known. So I say this go out there! Write about how you love abortion, write about how all men are dogs an people will respond. Likes are over rated, comments is where the fun interaction is!

Journey Sacrifice & Change

A list of changes in my life that I made to get to the place of no depression fits. Self acceptance an dealing with women. An what helped me an how it did.

1. Purchased 30 days of the Game book… This taught me self confidence an reinforced it with missions/ exercises. It taught me not to hate women, but to embrace them an understand how they see me.

2. Blocked all my female friends news updates on facebook… This was one of the best things I did. I was suddenly less angry an irritable from reading about their constant love life. SO logging into my facebook became a pleasure an I could read their wall when I chose to.

3. Changed my style…. I went from wearing traditional clothing to something that was out of my norm.. Clothes that flattered my body an was stylish. This helped change my thinking an confidence level. I walked with more confidence because somehow I felt better.

3. Cut myself out of all female friend zones… This was a very important step. I felt free from judging female friends relationships an worrying about how they was being treated. It also took away the crutch that  I was using to say that I still had a chance with them.  At this point I was starting to get to new levels of happiness in my life. I was satisfied an less stressed from dancing at their whim.

4. Let go…. Stopped chasing women an just made my intention clear an backed away. No more over thinking it, acting more like a man than a love hungry woman. I view myself as the prize now an the world won’t change for me, but I can change the world within me.

5. Took a chance.. Started going out on a branch, asking women out or acknowledging their approach. Had sex for the first time since I turned 20. Stopped doing things for others an worked for myself.

6. Listened to what women are saying about men.. This taught me a lot about how they think. I understood all the ways they could reject a man without actually saying it out right. I also learned that they are firm believers in having multiple dating interests at a time, well some of them don’t but most do. I adopted that belief an found it much easier an I didn’t come on as hard as normal which didn’t scare the women away… WINNING

These are the steps I took an now I have 3 dates planned an a friend with benefits. Am I bragging? no I am just saying that after a 5 year drought in sex an relationships I am finally seeing some success. It took a major over haul to my thinking an embracing the things I didn’t want to believe. My next step is to make steps that will change my career  progression an other passions that seem to be fizzling out.

Thank you for reading an tell me what you think about this, an if you have any suggestions.

Back away Slowly!

It’s not the first time I slept with her. She calls or texts me to come over an I show up, play hard to get an have a little fun by the end of the night. She says shes not ready for a relationship, she wants to be friends with benefits. Here she is in my bed now sound asleep, an I’m baking her cinnamon buns for when she wakes up. I think I have a problem, I can’t fall for her an ruin this arrangement. I can feel Mr. Nice guy sneaking in! I won’t let him though, I just have to make it to my date with my other prospects this weekend an reset my mind. I think I will be good then right? One thing I have learned is never push a woman in a direction you want to go, or fall for one who hasn’t fallen for you.

The Chase

Chase or be chased that is the question. For years I have been taught, read, an told that you must chase a woman if you want her. I have found that this wrong in a lot of instances. I have attempted to chase women only for them to run away. Typically if a woman is running, it’s best to leave her be. So what is to be done? Get her to chase you! Yes, turn the tables and things get a bit more interesting. A woman chasing you tends to know what she wants. The same fear that runs through veins when you try an close the deal is now running through hers. She is more willing to take chances, an speed things up. I speak from experience, when getting chased by a woman you know your options. You don’t have to worry about her losing interest in you, which is common when you are the one chasing. Be the ball rubbed with cat-nip that hangs just out of her reach. Drive her crazy, make her think about her every move. It will feel weird, but in the end you will feel like the prize and value yourself even more.