Unlevel Standing Grounds

 

Can I have your number? The bread an butter of a mans life or love life that is. It’s the one crucial thing that a man must learn to survive. It is a mans sole responsibility to ask this, these words launch a man into limbo an he falls into firmly into the open palm of the woman he asks. Will she clinch her fist an crush his hopes and dreams, or will she open his his world to thousands of possibilities.

As awkward as it is for a woman to be asked out, it’s much worst for the man who had to build up the courage to ask you out. So is it fair for a man to have to work up all that courage to ask you out an get shot down? Is it fair that a man is the expected to be the one to act first? What does it say about the man whom this comes naturally an isn’t phased by the rejection? Well the dating game is not fair, its leveled in the favor of women. Since they only need to sit back an accept or reject advances, like saying yes or no to a free meal. They don’t have to be out going an if they really want a certain man they can step up an ask the man out. Why do we as a society empower one gender over another? A mans drive to reproduce keeps the power in a woman’s hands. How do we fix this, well we can’t we as men can only evolve to be more cunning an courageous at asking women out.

One thing I have observed while reading blogs is that women always tend to have problems finding the right man, while going on multiple dates an even have up to two or three men in the Que at one time. While most men who blog are having problems getting one date, or has found themselves in the friend zone. The man is making a cry for help, while the woman is asking for help in choosing. Choosing is a luxury that most women have an that no man has. I read about how a women dating one man suddenly decides to choose another over the one she is dating. It’s a cut throat world in dating an its not for the faint of heart. How many men have you approached? How many messages on online dating have you sent? Because of the uncertainty of the situation dating has become a numbers game for men. Ask as many women as you can an maybe you will get lucky. The less you ask the less likely you will find one, so it becomes a move of desperation. Problem is women can sense it an will reject you based on that reading.

So what do we do as men? Nothing really, just keep putting yourself under the choppers block. At least that what my women friends used to tell me. I don’t think it will get easier an rejection is a way of life. We find ourselves driven by nature to hunt or starve. Happy hunting brothers!

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Cake for Women

You know we can always be good friends an I don’t want that to change.  The most dreaded line a man has to hear in his lifetime, besides No I won’t marry you. If you haven’t guessed I’m talking about the friend zone. The zone of dreams of false hope, the zone of no return. The friend zone is the equivalent of a woman getting her cake an eating it too. My experience with the friend zone is extensive. I once believed that if I show her how good of a friend I was then she would soon fall for me an want more. I was wrong, instead I was a tissue an shoulder to cry on. I was a clown when she needed to be cheered up, an also the study buddy at 3am in the morning. Do I regret all that I did in the friend zone in false hope of becoming more than friends? YES, every second was wasted time an energy. It was time I could have been spending finding some one who actually wanted more than just a lackey from me.

What surprises me the most is that women are oblivious to the friend zone. They seem to think that its okay to use someone to that capacity, even though they know they man has feeling for them. How do they justify this behavior? Well it’s such a good thing why pass on the chance to have your own personal slave. Personally I think it’s evil an selfish, but that is a humans nature. Take what you can an give nothing back if you can avoid it.

My conclusion is this, a plea to my fellow men. Get out of the friend zone and live your life. Help your friends to see the truth of their plight an move on. I will say this to women if you think you are in a mans friend zone you too should either tell him how you feel an if he don’t feel the same way then move on. We should all stop being selfish and wasting time, an move on to someone better!