If it’s not Broken….

That’s right you just heard the dreaded words I think I need some space or it’s not you it’s me. So heart was broken an the only way to fix it is to head out into the wonderful world of dating.

WAIT we all agree that the dating world is broken, ruthless, an overall terrifying. It’s loaded with players, bitches an wolves in sheep clothing. Yet no one has stepped forward to change it. I occasionally come across the empowered female who hunts me down like a lioness on the savanna. However this don’t happen often, it’s mostly me giving the eyes to a woman or vice versa or eyeing her profile online an sending a well thought out letter. We don’t trust each other, we all hate the game but few are courageous enough to try an change it.

The dating world is hostile an dangerous.  We have to change this somehow. Someone has to be that change. Whether its not being shallow or giving that guy or girl you wouldn’t a chance. Stop grouping all men or women in stereotypes and you will find a lot more opportunities.  Don’t shoot down compliments an stop stalking an hating on each other. Together we can change the dating world.

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Online Dating help

Okay so I have tried online dating for a few years with no success. I have only had one date which came from match.com an the rest nothing. I have paid for eharmony, match, OkCupid, POF an a bunch more little known sites. Still no dice, my profile was honest an written by myself completely filled out. I’ve done the tests an piled pictures on my profiles. I took my time to read the profiles an sent genuine answers to them an received no replies. So what am I doing wrong?  I often say if they would just give me a chance, but it seems that I can’t seem to get that. So one day I happened across a site that gave me a guaranteed line to get responses. So I typed it in an sure enough! every woman I sent it to responded! I was baffled that a line that made absolutely no sense an applied to nothing on the profile could be successful. I tried this line on even the hottest ones that never reply an it also worked on them. SO are online dating women really that naive? That I can send a one liner to 100 women an get a reply without even looking at the profile? If I read an take the time to write a good well thought out letter I strike out? This is why I stopped online dating. It proved to me that it wasn’t me it’s the women out there. So tell me if this isn’t true then what catches your attention? What do you like to read or see on a profile? What gets you to respond to a note?

Online Dating Advice

Answer you notes, messages an winks! There is nothing worst than someone having a full mailbox after you took the time to write out a long thoughtful note.

Denial ends now

Lets get this straight….

You fell in love with someone who didn’t love you back. How did you expect that to end?

You chased the man or woman who wasn’t interested in you, now you you wonder why they left you. How do people expect these plotlines to end? Maybe they will see you for who you are an fall for you. Maybe they will be so taken with you persistance that they will confess their undying love for you. Maybe they will see you as you really are.. A human following human nature to get what looks impossible to get.

You see them as a prize, they see you as a predator.. scary huh? Yep that what it looks like a lion chasing a meer cat down an ripping it into shreds. We tend to be blind to reality, but maybe we are looking to defy it. Maybe we think that we will be the exception that movies are written about. The supervillan that somehow survives the onslaught.

True when you go for the impossible it almost seems worth it. Without great risk comes no reward right? Does that count when you dealing with courting? Maybe there should be a disclaimer on some of the quotes out there.

If at first you don’t succeed try try again.. that’s called stalking

Don’t stop pushing till you get what you want.. that’s called rape

Let’s just take a look at how life an dating are different. In a world where not trying is the same as failing an trying to hard lands you in jail. Maybe we should take it slow.. Just saying

Good Conversation

Why is it that I can’t have just a good conversation with a woman without it looking like I want more? I am the type of guy who loves to chat, I look for maturity in these conversations. I look for a passion or desire for knowledge in her. In order to get to this conversation I must ask her out.

I must learn to just let go, while looks attract me its the brain that drives me crazy. When she gives an excuse I should just move on. I waste to much time an energy on lost causes. Every time my energy goes into the wrong person I slip a tad more into depression. However this will not stop me. I will move on faster an see the signs clearer.

Can’t we just talk over coffee or a lunch? Can’t you just let me learn about you? Why are there so many games? Why so many steps? Well I brought this on myself, should have just let go.

Scripts Incoming

I will be working on a few movie script ideas in the coming weeks.

Wrong side of the bed…

A black widow type woman preys on unsuspecting men from local bars. One night she finds John a newly single young man, she try hard an fail to get him to her into her lair. Then after several attempts an a few days later she gets him to agree. He is wearing all white when he shows u at her door an is wearing all red when he leaves!

Friend Zoned

A young man falls in love with a smart young lady named Lilly. After spending a lot of time with her he realizes that she isn’t into him. She has taken to another young man that he knows. In a last ditched effort to show her his worth an free himself from the friend zone. He happens upon another young lady an together they hatch a plan to show Lilly what he is really made of.

I will soon be starting a new page of all my literary works so stay tuned!

Open to Comments!

You open your heart to the world, you pour out your soul in your blog. You hope someone sees it an perhaps has the answer, maybe a bit of reassurance. Hours go by an not one comment! Maybe a like an only 11 views. You know people are reading but what can you do to get them to comment? You try an encourage them by asking a question at the end. You state an opinion an request feed back, but still no dice. I have found that the best way to get comments is to say something outrageous, something unbelievable. Something that makes readers look back and an say what in the hell? You must say something that bothers people convictions an calls their morals into question. While sure this maybe hard to do, but if you writing is direct or offensive someone will comment. Some soul will make their opinion known. So I say this go out there! Write about how you love abortion, write about how all men are dogs an people will respond. Likes are over rated, comments is where the fun interaction is!

Women & Love

1 million questions,1 million problems, 0 answers, 1 source women. A woman knows all there is to know about love. She can feel it at a very young age, an will go to the end of the world to find it. She’s like a blood hound on the scent of a rabbit, once she sense love all common sense goes out the window. She has no regard for her safety or anyone around her. Her emotions are like a arty round, destroys everything remotely close to the drop zone. Love leads to murder, sabotage an most commonly hate. While we can’t touch love or even know that the feeling is real, they still believe firmly in it. They are experts in it, they know where it begins an how it will end. So what do you do when a woman says she is in love with you? I would say run, but she will catch you. I would say hide, but like a snake drawn to eggs she will consume you. We men are the prey, even when we think we are the hunters. We never get the girl, the girl gets us. Slowly but surely I am realizing more an more, that I am powerless in her eyes. That it is dangerous to get her attention because once she wants you, you have no say in the matter.

Journey Sacrifice & Change

A list of changes in my life that I made to get to the place of no depression fits. Self acceptance an dealing with women. An what helped me an how it did.

1. Purchased 30 days of the Game book… This taught me self confidence an reinforced it with missions/ exercises. It taught me not to hate women, but to embrace them an understand how they see me.

2. Blocked all my female friends news updates on facebook… This was one of the best things I did. I was suddenly less angry an irritable from reading about their constant love life. SO logging into my facebook became a pleasure an I could read their wall when I chose to.

3. Changed my style…. I went from wearing traditional clothing to something that was out of my norm.. Clothes that flattered my body an was stylish. This helped change my thinking an confidence level. I walked with more confidence because somehow I felt better.

3. Cut myself out of all female friend zones… This was a very important step. I felt free from judging female friends relationships an worrying about how they was being treated. It also took away the crutch that  I was using to say that I still had a chance with them.  At this point I was starting to get to new levels of happiness in my life. I was satisfied an less stressed from dancing at their whim.

4. Let go…. Stopped chasing women an just made my intention clear an backed away. No more over thinking it, acting more like a man than a love hungry woman. I view myself as the prize now an the world won’t change for me, but I can change the world within me.

5. Took a chance.. Started going out on a branch, asking women out or acknowledging their approach. Had sex for the first time since I turned 20. Stopped doing things for others an worked for myself.

6. Listened to what women are saying about men.. This taught me a lot about how they think. I understood all the ways they could reject a man without actually saying it out right. I also learned that they are firm believers in having multiple dating interests at a time, well some of them don’t but most do. I adopted that belief an found it much easier an I didn’t come on as hard as normal which didn’t scare the women away… WINNING

These are the steps I took an now I have 3 dates planned an a friend with benefits. Am I bragging? no I am just saying that after a 5 year drought in sex an relationships I am finally seeing some success. It took a major over haul to my thinking an embracing the things I didn’t want to believe. My next step is to make steps that will change my career  progression an other passions that seem to be fizzling out.

Thank you for reading an tell me what you think about this, an if you have any suggestions.