Foreign Connection

There I sat on the hostel chair checking my facebook updates an relaxing before my next adventure. I had just descended Mt Fuji an my body was on the mend. “Is that a cat making that noise”? the girl across from me asked, Lol I don’t know but its highly ignoring I replied, still zoned out on my mobile.

   I soon became bored an decided to engage the stranger across from me. I started by checking her out a bit, she was ruffled from the hostel life. Her hair was down an a little on the unkept side, but more stylish than just plain unkept. It fell over her face doen past her shoulders. She had pretty eyes an petite features, so I judged her as average. 

    “So why are you in Japan?” I asked. “I’m going to climb Mount Fuji tomorrow” she replied. After that moment we chatted an laughed about our adventures in Japan so far. So we both decided to go grab dinner at the local Japanese restaurant. Neither one of us spoke Japanese, but we were travelers an had overcome language barriers long ago . We laugh an discussed the different foods we had tasted while there, our experiences with the native people.

Soon the conversation shifted to our past, future an just other thoughts we were having. As she spoke I sense a certain familiarity with her,  as a girl from boston she had been to all the same states an places I had been to. It was like hearing myself speaking from across the table. How could someone so like myself have crossed my path? How cruel yet beautiful is life to cross our paths together. I didn’t know it at the time as our eye contact increased an our smiles became wider that I was forming something, something that is beautiful an a curse in itself.

  We moved on from the restaurant, to the supermarket where we did some shopping for her mountain hike the next day. We continued to chat about ourselves an how she was moving on to business school in another state. “I know what you need, some peanut butter” I stated. “Oh my God I always take peanut butter on hikes” she exclaimed. Long story short, we found the peanut butter, I tasted octopus for the first time with her an we walked home together in the rain. 

  Back at the hostel we went our separate ways as she had to hike in the morning. The next morning she was nowhere to be seen, so I spent the day with a french guy I had met that night. She eventually came home where she said she had made it to the top an soon after went to bed. I didn’t see her again that day or the next.

  I sat at the bus stop on my way back to Tokyo, I had just traded my tickets in for a earlier bus hoping to get a chance to spend time in Akiba before I got on the plane home. When I heard a familiar voice, “Hey I didn’t know you was heading back today” she stated. Here she was again randomly taking the same path as me. Once again we chatted an spoke about backers life. The bus came she got on an I made my way to the back. As the bus rode along I sat in my seat thinking maybe I should give her my number. Maybe this is meant to be, as I thought these thoughts she turned around smiled an waved at me. I made up my mind that I would indeed give her my number also I would give her my handy travel book with Tokyo maps an Japanese language helpers. I wrote the number in the back of the book an went to sleep.

  We arrived in Shibuya Tokyo an got off the bus, we talked for a bit an then it hit me. For some reason I wouldn’t give her my number. For some reason this would be it, we would go our separate ways in the world. She would head to the Philippines an me back to Arizona. This was the way it was meant to be. This would be the magic in my life, that knowing that someone out there was like me. “So this is the goodbye then?” she asked “yes,”I said sadly. We hugged…. 

If it’s not Broken….

That’s right you just heard the dreaded words I think I need some space or it’s not you it’s me. So heart was broken an the only way to fix it is to head out into the wonderful world of dating.

WAIT we all agree that the dating world is broken, ruthless, an overall terrifying. It’s loaded with players, bitches an wolves in sheep clothing. Yet no one has stepped forward to change it. I occasionally come across the empowered female who hunts me down like a lioness on the savanna. However this don’t happen often, it’s mostly me giving the eyes to a woman or vice versa or eyeing her profile online an sending a well thought out letter. We don’t trust each other, we all hate the game but few are courageous enough to try an change it.

The dating world is hostile an dangerous.  We have to change this somehow. Someone has to be that change. Whether its not being shallow or giving that guy or girl you wouldn’t a chance. Stop grouping all men or women in stereotypes and you will find a lot more opportunities.  Don’t shoot down compliments an stop stalking an hating on each other. Together we can change the dating world.

In faith I Date

WARNING!! This is not a bashing of faith but more of a desire to understand some reasoning behind recent interactions…

The most commonly heard phrase that l have read or heard is I’m waiting on God to give me a man. I really don’t know how to take this phrase or I am focusing on God right now. They both sound a lot like the I am focusing on my career or more commonly I have a boyfriend. Should I add these to the book of little white lies women tell? I could place them on the lists of nice ways to say I’m not interested.. 

I could be completely wrong here but I was also raised to be a minister but I never remembered much about pre-marriage relationships. These answers sound like excuses for different personality flaws or quite possibly denial. I believe they we have to take the first steps, it’s highly unlikely that a light from heaven is going to shine down on a man an voice say this is the one for you. I have NEVER seen this happen, I have also seen a lot of christians divorce. What does this mean? Does it mean you picked before God shined the heavenly light on the right one? 

Religion is a touchy subject, but since I have been there an have seen very little in the Bible about dating I am curious as to where all these sayings an excuses are coming from.  Those are perhaps the two statements theres no comeback from, I mean if God didn’t shine the light on you then there must be zero hope an you don’t want to be the reason someone loses focus on God.

I often wonder that with the changing of society how would people reinterpret religion an the Bible. My take is not having a shiny light or an appfinity that a guy is the man for you doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give him a chance. Asking God for a man is about as asking God for cold hard cash probably not going to happen. An if it does he may not be what you physically want an you will just once again pawn him off. 

So I ask you how do you interpet those two phrases?

The Death of Patience?

Hi how are you? How much do you enjoy nursing?…. 

Most boring dating site message ever! RIght ladies, even though I went through the trouble to read your entire profile an message you a legit question it’s just not eye catching enough. I understand you get 100,000 messages a day an they all look the same besides the picture of the guy on the heading. I understand that being shallow is rather common I also understand that dating online is like shopping at a meat market that only the female knows the price.

I’ll start with every no reply is a rejection. I understand your profile says you’re open minded an willing to try new things. Lets reword this really quick to say what she means…

I am open minded however you must fit into my box in order for me to give it a shot.. Defeats the purpose of the post. Oh an my personal favorite if you have a question feel free to ask me. Let me reword this to say what she really means….

If you have a question an met my standards then ask an maybe you will get a reply.

Maybe Im slightly bitter from the time I put in or the simple fact that I can use one line an get any woman to reply. Online dating has become the same normal dating except you aren’t even rejected to your face. Okay there was my rant its good to be back. An ladies if you have any comments please feel free to bash me or give me you point of view.

Loving the dance?

I’m warning you I’m not an easy catch! That’s what she said to me today. First a little history on Mizz K. A few months back I started an experiment which I detailed in a previous post. Well she was part of this experiment an I had given up on her after she blew me off on the first date without even a call. However I am a curious person an was oft told by my parents that curiosity killed the cat. I had to find out why she would just blow me off after saying yes. So I work with this young lady so I had to dance correctly in order to not turn the whole workplace awkward. After much hard work I got to the bottom of the issue, she didn’t like me like that! So we agreed to be friends, I secretly agreed to not give up on getting a shot at her. So I would say things that friends wouldn’t say to her got her number an started texting her. First we would text to about 11 or 12 then suddenly we were up to 4am every night for a week, texting about sex relationships playing games ect. She then wanted to make up the movie to me an after the movie we hugged.

 

I leave in 2 weeks to go away for military training for about 6 months. She is a virgin, never been in a serious relationship. We know each other an our conversation become a battle of wit an constant reading each other while flirting an learning more. She wants to let what happen happen, an I know better than rush a woman into a decision. We have a lot planned with each other over the next few weeks before I leave an she will be learning skype so we can video chat. I think its important that I kiss her before I go to make that sexual connection. I know I have fallen for her an she doesn’t know how she feels about me. She says I’m growing on her an she loved the hug. So now I wait an see what will become of this. We have chemistry an one last thing… Did I mention she to is a Gemini?

A Presidents Regrets

“We have restricted credit, we have restricted opportunity, we have controlled development, and we have come to be one of the worst ruled, one of the most completely controlled and dominated, governments in the civilized world–no longer a government by free opinion, no longer a government by conviction and the vote of the majority, but a government by the opinion and the duress of small groups of dominant men.”
Woodrow Wilson

Let the awakening begin!

Online Dating help

Okay so I have tried online dating for a few years with no success. I have only had one date which came from match.com an the rest nothing. I have paid for eharmony, match, OkCupid, POF an a bunch more little known sites. Still no dice, my profile was honest an written by myself completely filled out. I’ve done the tests an piled pictures on my profiles. I took my time to read the profiles an sent genuine answers to them an received no replies. So what am I doing wrong?  I often say if they would just give me a chance, but it seems that I can’t seem to get that. So one day I happened across a site that gave me a guaranteed line to get responses. So I typed it in an sure enough! every woman I sent it to responded! I was baffled that a line that made absolutely no sense an applied to nothing on the profile could be successful. I tried this line on even the hottest ones that never reply an it also worked on them. SO are online dating women really that naive? That I can send a one liner to 100 women an get a reply without even looking at the profile? If I read an take the time to write a good well thought out letter I strike out? This is why I stopped online dating. It proved to me that it wasn’t me it’s the women out there. So tell me if this isn’t true then what catches your attention? What do you like to read or see on a profile? What gets you to respond to a note?

Online Dating Advice

Answer you notes, messages an winks! There is nothing worst than someone having a full mailbox after you took the time to write out a long thoughtful note.

Denial ends now

Lets get this straight….

You fell in love with someone who didn’t love you back. How did you expect that to end?

You chased the man or woman who wasn’t interested in you, now you you wonder why they left you. How do people expect these plotlines to end? Maybe they will see you for who you are an fall for you. Maybe they will be so taken with you persistance that they will confess their undying love for you. Maybe they will see you as you really are.. A human following human nature to get what looks impossible to get.

You see them as a prize, they see you as a predator.. scary huh? Yep that what it looks like a lion chasing a meer cat down an ripping it into shreds. We tend to be blind to reality, but maybe we are looking to defy it. Maybe we think that we will be the exception that movies are written about. The supervillan that somehow survives the onslaught.

True when you go for the impossible it almost seems worth it. Without great risk comes no reward right? Does that count when you dealing with courting? Maybe there should be a disclaimer on some of the quotes out there.

If at first you don’t succeed try try again.. that’s called stalking

Don’t stop pushing till you get what you want.. that’s called rape

Let’s just take a look at how life an dating are different. In a world where not trying is the same as failing an trying to hard lands you in jail. Maybe we should take it slow.. Just saying

Good Conversation

Why is it that I can’t have just a good conversation with a woman without it looking like I want more? I am the type of guy who loves to chat, I look for maturity in these conversations. I look for a passion or desire for knowledge in her. In order to get to this conversation I must ask her out.

I must learn to just let go, while looks attract me its the brain that drives me crazy. When she gives an excuse I should just move on. I waste to much time an energy on lost causes. Every time my energy goes into the wrong person I slip a tad more into depression. However this will not stop me. I will move on faster an see the signs clearer.

Can’t we just talk over coffee or a lunch? Can’t you just let me learn about you? Why are there so many games? Why so many steps? Well I brought this on myself, should have just let go.